Off Topic · Chicks - what is their deal? (page 2)

Posted by BRIGGS:

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Posted by GKFv2:

What is with chicks that are nice and friendly for the first few days you know them and then seem to completely ignore your call or texts?


It probably means you should start looking at something 25 pounds heavier and start from there.

He thinks there's some kind of key to this. An answer that will make him happy.

Posted by BRIGGS:

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Posted by GKFv2:

What is with chicks that are nice and friendly for the first few days you know them and then seem to completely ignore your call or texts?


It probably means you should start looking at something 25 pounds heavier and start from there.

LOL. Dude, worry about winning the heart of Andrew Bynum and don't worry about me.

Posted by Knicksfansince94:

True, sebstar, women are in abundance. The key is to keep a healthy flow and not get too bogged down with any one specific- as is the key to much of life, it seems.

Yeah, talk to many many chicks. When you're getting serious with one, worry about it then, but you're not now, so keep the numbers rising. Don't even worry if they are fatty's or not. Even give them a try, b/c you never know what they have in store in the future. There have been a few occasions when I turned down heavier chicks, only to see them lose all the weight in the world, and then they don't give two sheeots about me after. Rightfully so.

However, it's a very populated world out there. You don't think there's a few chicks, out of the 2 billion, that will be attracted to you and give their all to you? Well guess what. Their are. You just have to live your life the way you want. Don't kick yourself for your mistakes. Be proud of your mistakes because you learned from them and became a better man from them. Your right situation will come.

Your talking to a guy who makes obscene phone calls. Breathes into the phone saying 'I want you'. Ha, ha!

Posted by 4949:

Your talking to a guy who makes obscene phone calls. Breathes into the phone saying 'I want you'. Ha, ha!

Dude, STFU already. 1. I used a freekin soundboard, not my own voice and 2. these kinds of pranks exist all over the internet. Lighten up and get a sense of humor. This has nothing to do with women so please go be a douche elsewhere.

Posted by GKFv2:

Posted by 4949:

Your talking to a guy who makes obscene phone calls. Breathes into the phone saying 'I want you'. Ha, ha!

Dude, STFU already. 1. I used a freekin soundboard, not my own voice and 2. these kinds of pranks exist all over the internet. Lighten up and get a sense of humor. This has nothing to do with women so please go be a douche elsewhere.

This is common. Back when I used to date, this happened a few times and seems to be very common for almost everyone.

My interpretation is that it's usually one of these three things:
A) They aren't interested and don't have the backbone to say so. If it's this one, you'll likely never hear from the chick again.
B) They had multiple dates lined up on different nights and liked one of the other guys more. They don't have the backbone to say anything unless pressed. I think this is a sleezy approach, but apparently common.
C) They recently broke up with an ex, and although she was going out on dates, she got back together with her ex. You're not likely to get a response back on this one, either.

But seriously, if a female is quiet for more than 5 days early in the relationship, she's probably not interested. That's been my experience -- because the ones that are interested call multiple times a day.

Posted by Solace:

This is common. Back when I used to date, this happened a few times and seems to be very common for almost everyone.

My interpretation is that it's usually one of these three things:
A) They aren't interested and don't have the backbone to say so. If it's this one, you'll likely never hear from the chick again.
B) They had multiple dates lined up on different nights and liked one of the other guys more. They don't have the backbone to say anything unless pressed. I think this is a sleezy approach, but apparently common.
C) They recently broke up with an ex, and although she was going out on dates, she got back together with her ex. You're not likely to get a response back on this one, either.

But seriously, if a female is quiet for more than 5 days early in the relationship, she's probably not interested. That's been my experience -- because the ones that are interested call multiple times a day.

You're probably right. But why lie about being "too busy" with work? I guess that's where the backbone thing comes in to play. It just makes no sense to me for her not to be interested. This girl was really into me, I'm not just tooting my own horn. But from one day to the next, with absolutely nothing to trigger it, she just kind went into the silent treatment. Maybe she is too busy or maybe she doesn't have a backbone. Either way, I'm not waiting around to find out. She can come to me. I'm moving ahead.

Posted by GKFv2:

Posted by Solace:

This is common. Back when I used to date, this happened a few times and seems to be very common for almost everyone.

My interpretation is that it's usually one of these three things:
A) They aren't interested and don't have the backbone to say so. If it's this one, you'll likely never hear from the chick again.
B) They had multiple dates lined up on different nights and liked one of the other guys more. They don't have the backbone to say anything unless pressed. I think this is a sleezy approach, but apparently common.
C) They recently broke up with an ex, and although she was going out on dates, she got back together with her ex. You're not likely to get a response back on this one, either.

But seriously, if a female is quiet for more than 5 days early in the relationship, she's probably not interested. That's been my experience -- because the ones that are interested call multiple times a day.

You're probably right. But why lie about being "too busy" with work? I guess that's where the backbone thing comes in to play. It just makes no sense to me for her not to be interested. This girl was really into me, I'm not just tooting my own horn. But from one day to the next, with absolutely nothing to trigger it, she just kind went into the silent treatment. Maybe she is too busy or maybe she doesn't have a backbone. Either way, I'm not waiting around to find out. She can come to me. I'm moving ahead.

How are those breathing lessons coming along?

Posted by GKFv2:

Posted by Solace:

This is common. Back when I used to date, this happened a few times and seems to be very common for almost everyone.

My interpretation is that it's usually one of these three things:
A) They aren't interested and don't have the backbone to say so. If it's this one, you'll likely never hear from the chick again.
B) They had multiple dates lined up on different nights and liked one of the other guys more. They don't have the backbone to say anything unless pressed. I think this is a sleezy approach, but apparently common.
C) They recently broke up with an ex, and although she was going out on dates, she got back together with her ex. You're not likely to get a response back on this one, either.

But seriously, if a female is quiet for more than 5 days early in the relationship, she's probably not interested. That's been my experience -- because the ones that are interested call multiple times a day.

You're probably right. But why lie about being "too busy" with work? I guess that's where the backbone thing comes in to play. It just makes no sense to me for her not to be interested. This girl was really into me, I'm not just tooting my own horn. But from one day to the next, with absolutely nothing to trigger it, she just kind went into the silent treatment. Maybe she is too busy or maybe she doesn't have a backbone. Either way, I'm not waiting around to find out. She can come to me. I'm moving ahead.

Yeah, we've all been there. In my experience, many women try to defer blame in all cases, so rather than risking the chance that you'll take it bad and possibly say a few hurtful things, which may be justified, I guess they'd rather avoid the issue altogether. Personally, I definitely agree that it's a lame way of handling the situation, but it's unfortunately common.

Posted by Knicksfansince94:

True, sebstar, women are in abundance. The key is to keep a healthy flow and not get too bogged down with any one specific- as is the key to much of life, it seems.

Yep. Grabbing a new female is like Christmas for adults. Unwrapping a gift = taking off her clothes. Feeling of accomplishment and definitely an ego and self-esteem booster. Dont let these hoes get you down, bra.

this is a topic that has affected me lately. as most of you know, i just got dumped about three months ago from my ex-girlfriend of three years that i lived with. the most frustrating thing is that it is not me personally but the supposed "baggage" i have like a son and an ex-wife. she is about 8 years younger and in graduate school so i understand somewhat but i am not happy. the worse thing is the adjustment of being single again. it is hard to get back in the game and the fact that i am older ( 34) makes it a daunting task. the biggest thing is confidence. you have to have that swagger. it is easier said than done. you can try to convince yourself that you have it and say to yourself that you do but ultimately you come up short. this weekend was evidence of that for me. i supposedly had some eggs in the basket and they all fell out with one swipe. i may have hit rock bottom which is good. the last time i hit rock bottom was when i was rejected so bad in front of people that i refused to go out for three months ( i know that is punkish but hey i am a cancer so what do you expect). however, when i went out again, i did not care and that is when the flow started coming again. i was hooking up left and right for 6 months until ultimately i met my ex. it is a little more difficult now since a lot have time has passed, most of my friends have fiances or moved away and i do not have the network of females i had awhile ago. not to mention whether i am too old for the bar scene. the good news is that the next few months seem to be the best time to meet people for some reason. all my life, my most prosperous time was in the winter months of january-march. maybe it will continue. but the above posters are right. it all starts with you and how you view yourself. girls are attracted to confidence. you have to be yourself and have fun and they will want to be with you. your young so take advantage of your network of friends and meet many people, even the ones you are not attractive to because remember girls ALWAYS have friends. you are lucky you live in a high concentrated population of women where women outnumber men. keep that in mind. just enjoy life and your family, especially now. keep your mind occupied and have fun doing whatever you like. one thing that i know is that there are ALWAYS chances popping up. but one thing you and i have to learn about is to let the situation present itself without getting desperate. desperation is the killer but after that phase is apathy. that is when things happen. sorry that this is long winded but i did have to vent.

There's actually some good advice in this thread. GKV, we've all been through this. I want to echo the voice of some others. The best answer to this is to get your act together. Make sure things are working for you. Get your work life, education, health hobbies etc in order. Feel good about yourself. Women/girls like guys that have their act together. When you get your shiot together you are more confident and more attractive.

Play the numbers game. Don't focus on one until you are truly dating. Until then, even if they act like they like you, if it's in the beginning, they do not own you. Keep the floodgates open.

Bonnie got him a doggie. The little guy got him a "pound Puppie".

GKFv2,

I was reading through this thread and thought the female perspective might be in order lol. I'm going to start off with the hard part first. I know it sucks but most of us having been through rough times in relationships.

When women are into a guy I don't care if she's working 20 jobs SHE WILL CALL if she likes you. Not just women because I have similar conversations with some of my girlfriends and I say the same thing. If someone really likes you they will call, even if they have to call you from a bathroom stall or in the car on the way to work they will call. Now granted there is always exception to the rules but usually it's a safe bet that if they aren't calling they aren't interested.

Why would she lie to you? Not many women are going to flat out cut you down a guy and say "I don't dig you stop calling me". Because is anyone really ready for that level of honesty? It's not about deferring blame it's just the way things are because unless you've guys made some type of commitment to one another then she probably doesn't feel like she owes you an explanation.

I think 4949 said it which I wholly agree you have to go out there and experience things for yourself. Look just because a particular women doesn't like doesn't mean that you are in no way unattractive or unappealing to women. You just have to find your niche and relax a little. Go out there and have fun just be safe and respectful. I don't know how much this is a secret anymore but if you want to get a particular female friend interested in you just let her see you flirt with other women . Sometimes it just takes her seeing you in another light and not just in the friend's aspect. Especially if she thinks she might lose you.

Women need to see you as confident, socially adept, and desirable. But remember there is a fine line between being a creep and being a suave type. That's why when there's a boundary respect it. If she's not making overtures or if you straight up tell her how you feel and she's not interested. Don't cross the boundaries of friendships because it will push her away not move closer. This makes me think of this one particular guy in my office. He's in his late 30's and maybe once a upon a time women flocked to him. But now he tries to hit on every women (keeping in mind he's married) and we absolutely cannot stand him. Don't be this guy either. Because I think he's genuinely clueless to the fact that none of the women find him remotely attractive. This leads me to my final piece of advice.

Be careful when asking your friends particularly males for advice. Women are usually seen as the bitter gender but believe me there are plenty of men out there who are very bitter and in turn have usually very low opinions of women in general. So almost all of the advice you get from these guys will only hurt you if you act on it.

Then you have the other type who swears that he has no problem meeting women and even lets you in on his "tips" but in reality women consider him only a slightly better version of a toy or we consider him a complete tool.

i will confess i am extremely bitter towards women... if u knew what i went through w/my ex you would understand completely.

that said, believe me, chicks are bipolar dude... trust.

[Edited by - TMS on 12-22-2008 5:05 PM]

Posted by TMS:

i will confess i am extremely bitter towards women... if u knew what i went through w/my ex you would understand completely.

that said, believe me, chicks are bipolar dude... trust.

[Edited by - TMS on 12-22-2008 5:05 PM]

Really it all boils down to this the dating world is no fairytale you will get hurt at one time or another but you risk all of that for the hope of meeting the "One" or the one for that particular night lol.

I've seen some pretty messed up stuff happen to my girlfriends and I've dated a shitty guy or two or maybe three lol. But I try not put the entire male gender in one box due to one Ahole that I had a relationship with. Because unfortunately there are some crazy people out there who will violate your trust, destroy your emotions, or just do generally shitty things to you.

The funny thing about all this is 'for all of you who are fathers of daughters, or will be fathers to daughters one day, you'll be teaching them exactly what some of you accuse them of being now'! That my friends is the irony of this entire thing many of see as a dilemma. Yup! One day you'll be protecting 'daddy's little girl' too!

Some little punks going to be calling your daughter bipolar, clueless, etc. and you'll see yourself in the mare one day. Men teach their daughters how to be. Men are so much a part of their lives, they even design their clothes for them. Food for thought. Food for thought. Ha!

[Edited by - 4949 on 12-22-2008 10:48 PM]

yes, it a never ending cycle... men are destined to be plagued by bipolar women for all time... look at Eve, she was bipolar bigtime... why else would she start wearing fig leaves over her crotch & picking apples off of Sacred trees & munchin on them all of a sudden out of the blue when she had no problem walkin' around nekkid the day before? she even bamboozled her man Adam into doing the same & ended up getting them both evicted out of their fat ass crib... bipolar i tell ya!

Bitty finally back from world travels? How was it?

Bitty... we missed you.