OK, so I have a new nickname for basically a lot of chicks. There is a category of chicks that I like to call PYTHONS. We were talking on the phone for hours straight, with her dominating the phone conversation, which is fine to an extent. However, when you can hardly breathe b/c they keep talking and talking, it just gets frustrating. And then you try to get off the phone. You try ending it by throwing in the word "Anyway, I..." yet she continues to just talk right over you and tell more stories when you're ready to sleep.
I finally tell her I'm ready to pass out, and she really tells me "Call me when you wake up."
They are pythons b/c they don't give you a chance to breathe with their talking. Never. Ever. Don't think for a second that I'm calling her in the morning.
Dude, If you ain't interested in what they have to say now, wait until you are married to it. Do yourself a favor, in the future, if this happens again, hang up the phone and change your number.
TMS@ 1/7/2009 7:51 PM
when u really think about it, asking for advice on women on a sports message board is sorta like asking for tips on health & fitness on a message board for overweight food addicts... everyone here is either:
a. trying desperately to get away from the women in their lives that drive them crazy b. spend way too much of their time posting on this forum they should be using trying to get laid instead c. attend Star Trek conventions in their leisure time d. aspiring to land a job at Geek Squad
Bippity10@ 1/7/2009 8:48 PM
Posted by TMS:
when u really think about it, asking for advice on women on a sports message board is sorta like asking for tips on health & fitness on a message board for overweight food addicts... everyone here is either:
a. trying desperately to get away from the women in their lives that drive them crazy b. spend way too much of their time posting on this forum they should be using trying to get laid instead c. attend Star Trek conventions in their leisure time d. aspiring to land a job at Geek Squad
Dude, I am insulted by this........Although, I'd kill for a job at Geek Squad.
newyorknewyork@ 1/8/2009 3:16 PM
I think the question that GKF wanted answerd is why the girl couldn't or wouldn't just keep it real with him. If he knew what the problem was then he would be able to work on it in the future. The girl just cutting him off with no explanation would make someone question everything about themselves.
Bitty & Solace best touched on that aspect. There could be many different reasons why she wouldn't keep it real with you though. They vary from maybe she didn't want to hurt your feelings, maybe she was afraid of your reaction and did feel it was worth hearing it even if it would have been the right thing to do. Another very very possible reason is that she is into someone else but is hoping to comeback to you if she finds out that the dude she is into currently turns out to be a dud. This way she can fall back on an excuse like she was busy and didn't have time for men. Even if she really was very busy. If she was really really into you then she wouldn't have risked losing you by losing communication with you only to find out that you ended up interested in another chick.
With that 4949 said it best, that you need to find yourself, know your strengths and your weaknesses. Find out what you offer and bring to the table and what you don't. If you are a good man then realize that the women that pass over your or reject you are just missing out on a good man and that is there loss. As you know what you have to offer and there will always(and I do mean always) be another girl who will be willing to reap those benefits of a good man.
If you are still talking to the girl who is the topic of this thread. You should let her know how you feel as well, but with that you would have to do it smart. We as men usually have to much pride to admit such things, but It defiantly gets reactions from women. If you like her let it be known that you like her and enjoyed talking to her. But if she is to busy or not interest in you that you understand, and enjoyed the conversations you did have. This way you let her know that you were interested in her but that you aren't going to chase her around. She will either put more effort to talk to you showing you that she is into you or she will let you go showing that she isn't into you.
GKFv2@ 6/13/2009 4:52 AM
So basically I know this girl (not the same one from my original post) since January. We got really close, or so I thought. She lives in Jersey, I live in NY. There was a point from like February till like March where she didn't say shit to me, not even a text, and I thought it was going down that same road. Luckily it didn't when she eventually texted me apologizing deeply. I accepted and we became cool again. Till now.
Recently she's been giving me the cold shoulder. She barely talks to me and barely gives a fuck about my very existence. I put much more effort and have much more enthusiasm in talking to her. I understand that this is wrong. I'm not letting this go on much more. I'm gonna talk to her and tell her straight up what the situation is and if she continues then that's it. It hurts though because I got real close to this girl (not the same one I originally posted about in this topic) and now she's pushing me away for no reason. I ask her to hang out and she says OK and then when the time comes she makes up an excuse about how she can't come. Today she was supposed to come and she said "it's a long drive. I need to plan it out and stuff." WTF is that shit man? If you don't want to hang out, just tell me. I'm sick of that shit. Then your away message the next day reads "going to the shore tomorrow(the day we're supposed to hang out) with TG"...who the fuck is TG? The girls? I don't know but don't play these games.
I'm mad nice to this girl, I don't annoy her, I don't ask her to hang out with me all the time or talk to me all the time. I don't ask for too much and I get nothing in return. She tells me randomly and without me saying anything that "oh you can message me any time. just cuz I don't message you back doesn't mean I'm ignoring you. you know i'll message you eventually" or some shit. What?
Is this her way of telling me to go away? Is she trying to make me so mad at her that I stop talking to her? Did she meet another guy? I mean WTF man. You can't even give me a chance after 8 months I know you?
[Edited by - gkfv2 on 06-13-2009 05:08 AM]
TMS@ 6/13/2009 3:45 PM
dude, like i told u before, these types of girls (not all girls, don't wanna offend bitty or anyone else who maybe of the female persuasion) will be nice to u until they know they got u hooked, & then they'll either keep playing with your mind to keep you from becoming complacent yourself, or they'll just become disinterested altogether & move on to a bigger challenge... i'm telling u the more attention u show to this girl, the more she will treat u this way... don't fall for it... just leave her alone & move on to another... if this girl really likes u she'll be coming after u when she sees ur not willing to play that game... otherwise, if she doesn't, u wouldn't want her to begin with... don't waste ur time stressing over this kinda stuff... believe me the games are a big waste of time, effort & money... not worth it.
Allanfan20@ 6/14/2009 3:39 AM
Placing your eggs in one basket is suicide. It works in the movies. Not in real life.
Nalod@ 6/15/2009 12:42 AM
Posted by GKFv2:
So basically I know this girl (not the same one from my original post) since January. We got really close, or so I thought. She lives in Jersey, I live in NY. There was a point from like February till like March where she didn't say shit to me, not even a text, and I thought it was going down that same road. Luckily it didn't when she eventually texted me apologizing deeply. I accepted and we became cool again. Till now.
Recently she's been giving me the cold shoulder. She barely talks to me and barely gives a fuck about my very existence. I put much more effort and have much more enthusiasm in talking to her. I understand that this is wrong. I'm not letting this go on much more. I'm gonna talk to her and tell her straight up what the situation is and if she continues then that's it. It hurts though because I got real close to this girl (not the same one I originally posted about in this topic) and now she's pushing me away for no reason. I ask her to hang out and she says OK and then when the time comes she makes up an excuse about how she can't come. Today she was supposed to come and she said "it's a long drive. I need to plan it out and stuff." WTF is that shit man? If you don't want to hang out, just tell me. I'm sick of that shit. Then your away message the next day reads "going to the shore tomorrow(the day we're supposed to hang out) with TG"...who the fuck is TG? The girls? I don't know but don't play these games.
I'm mad nice to this girl, I don't annoy her, I don't ask her to hang out with me all the time or talk to me all the time. I don't ask for too much and I get nothing in return. She tells me randomly and without me saying anything that "oh you can message me any time. just cuz I don't message you back doesn't mean I'm ignoring you. you know i'll message you eventually" or some shit. What?
Is this her way of telling me to go away? Is she trying to make me so mad at her that I stop talking to her? Did she meet another guy? I mean WTF man. You can't even give me a chance after 8 months I know you?
[Edited by - gkfv2 on 06-13-2009 05:08 AM]
There are no "rules".
She is thinking maybe your are thick and can't take the hint?
Dude, when the right one comes along you'll know. She'll know and your head will spin.
Keep the faith!
SupremeCommander@ 6/15/2009 12:54 AM
Man just play it cool. If you have a reason to call her call her but don't just call to say hi. If she calls you pick up and be nice. She'll be expecting you to be upset and if you're not that will drive her crazy. And she won't understand why she is being driven crazy and will be driven even crazier. This is an awesome position to be in
GKFv2@ 6/15/2009 2:17 AM
I left her a voicemail after repeated attempts to contact her. I played it cool but I've deleted her from my phonebook and AIM buddy list. I don't really appreciate someone not giving a fuck about me so it is indeed over in my opinion. I'm ready to move on.
SupremeCommander@ 6/15/2009 10:50 AM
Posted by GKFv2:
I left her a voicemail after repeated attempts to contact her. I played it cool but I've deleted her from my phonebook and AIM buddy list. I don't really appreciate someone not giving a fuck about me so it is indeed over in my opinion. I'm ready to move on.
That's the smart thing to do...
Just a quick comment on "I don't really appreciate someone not giving a fuck about me"... that holds true in long relationships but sounds like she doesn't want that. Only thing you should worry about is shit you can control and how she thinks doesn't qualify. What you could control is getting play, not if she cares or not, just the game broham.
Allanfan20@ 6/15/2009 12:37 PM
Posted by GKFv2:
I left her a voicemail after repeated attempts to contact her. I played it cool but I've deleted her from my phonebook and AIM buddy list. I don't really appreciate someone not giving a fuck about me so it is indeed over in my opinion. I'm ready to move on.
That's all it's about bro. I'd maybe take a little longer to remove her from your phone book, just in case. Overall, move in a different direction.
Supreme is 100% right on one other thing. When you call her, make it have a reason, like if she wants to hang out and do something or whatever. Also, when she calls you, obviously be nice, as SC said, but to add one more thing. DO NOT sound surprised when you answer. Don't sound sluggish either obviously, but just answer it like your next door neighbor that you get along with is calling. And make it sound like you're doing something, even if you're not.
Things will fall in place for you buddy. Just keep your head up, never lose your confidence, and enjoy life. Women will come.
orangeblobman@ 6/15/2009 1:09 PM
You gotta just roll with the punches.
Here, read this book: http://www.didier-artault.com/05_JK_htm/... After you read this, you will reach your potential in everything and you will be free from worrying about petty chicks.
SupremeCommander@ 6/15/2009 1:46 PM
Posted by Allanfan20:
Posted by GKFv2:
I left her a voicemail after repeated attempts to contact her. I played it cool but I've deleted her from my phonebook and AIM buddy list. I don't really appreciate someone not giving a fuck about me so it is indeed over in my opinion. I'm ready to move on.
That's all it's about bro. I'd maybe take a little longer to remove her from your phone book, just in case. Overall, move in a different direction.
Supreme is 100% right on one other thing. When you call her, make it have a reason, like if she wants to hang out and do something or whatever. Also, when she calls you, obviously be nice, as SC said, but to add one more thing. DO NOT sound surprised when you answer. Don't sound sluggish either obviously, but just answer it like your next door neighbor that you get along with is calling. And make it sound like you're doing something, even if you're not.
Things will fall in place for you buddy. Just keep your head up, never lose your confidence, and enjoy life. Women will come.
This is good advice
martin@ 6/15/2009 2:20 PM
call her up and ask if she'll go splitsies on some NBA Draft tickets.
Allanfan20@ 6/15/2009 2:31 PM
Posted by martin:
call her up and ask if she'll go splitsies on some NBA Draft tickets.
Or better yet, call her and ask her if she'll do some splitzies after the NBA draft. She'll probably say yes.
GKFv2@ 6/15/2009 3:51 PM
This should have been my message:
TMS@ 6/15/2009 6:09 PM
Posted by SupremeCommander:
What you could control is getting play, not if she cares or not, just the game broham.
best advice on this thread... the only way you'll get played is if u let urself get played... don't play the game.
GKFv2@ 6/15/2009 9:27 PM
Posted by SupremeCommander:
Posted by GKFv2:
I left her a voicemail after repeated attempts to contact her. I played it cool but I've deleted her from my phonebook and AIM buddy list. I don't really appreciate someone not giving a fuck about me so it is indeed over in my opinion. I'm ready to move on.
That's the smart thing to do...
Just a quick comment on "I don't really appreciate someone not giving a fuck about me"... that holds true in long relationships but sounds like she doesn't want that. Only thing you should worry about is shit you can control and how she thinks doesn't qualify. What you could control is getting play, not if she cares or not, just the game broham.
I'm a young dude. I'm learning on the job as they say. Sometimes my frustration boils over but I don' let it show too much to these girls. I usually vent here or to others. But I know I have to change my perspective so I could not fall into these traps/predicaments any longer. And if I do fall into them, I have to handle it with calmness and coolness.
Oh and I appreciate everyone's advice in the thread.
[Edited by - gkfv2 on 06-15-2009 9:27 PM]
TMS@ 6/15/2009 10:04 PM
not giving a sheeit gets easier w/age... don't worry dude, everyone of us have had to pay our dues... you'll learn as u go just like u said... if u play it right, it's 1 of the best rides u'll ever take in your life, so enjoy every minute of it & try not to stress it too much.
SupremeCommander@ 6/16/2009 10:14 AM
Posted by GKFv2:
Posted by SupremeCommander:
Posted by GKFv2:
I left her a voicemail after repeated attempts to contact her. I played it cool but I've deleted her from my phonebook and AIM buddy list. I don't really appreciate someone not giving a fuck about me so it is indeed over in my opinion. I'm ready to move on.
That's the smart thing to do...
Just a quick comment on "I don't really appreciate someone not giving a fuck about me"... that holds true in long relationships but sounds like she doesn't want that. Only thing you should worry about is shit you can control and how she thinks doesn't qualify. What you could control is getting play, not if she cares or not, just the game broham.
I'm a young dude. I'm learning on the job as they say. Sometimes my frustration boils over but I don' let it show too much to these girls. I usually vent here or to others. But I know I have to change my perspective so I could not fall into these traps/predicaments any longer. And if I do fall into them, I have to handle it with calmness and coolness.
Oh and I appreciate everyone's advice in the thread.
[Edited by - gkfv2 on 06-15-2009 9:27 PM]
There is no doubt in my mind that you're headed down the right path... I saw all the talent you were friends with on facebook (when I had it). You just do you and you'll be more than fine. That's it really... pursue and be comfortable being yourself and the only way to really accomplish that is pursue as many as you can until you find someone decent. The best way to learn to not touch fire is to get burned
[Edited by - supremecommander on 06-16-2009 10:41 AM]
